Dating non mormons

By Amelia Ten years ago, I was living in London where my friends and I often engaged in long, provocative discussions that sometimes lasted all night.One night we had a long talk about whether we would marry men who were not Mormon. I had absolute trust in my loving Father-God that somehow it would work out that people who had the kind of marriage I wanted to have—a trusting, loving, deeply committed companionate marriage—would not be separated in the eternities.I have been with my boyfriend for about 3 months now. From the time we first started dating him being Mormon never actually came up.The only reason we discussed it was because i had mentioned that i dated a Mormon before in a story i was telling him, and he replied "Oh i am actually Mormon." I knew the beliefs of Mormons but i didn't want to be closed minded as i really enjoyed his company, so i kept seeing him.After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.I hope it is okay to post here and i thought i might get some good feedback from people here who know the religion.Whether or not he served a mission always plays an important factor.

How could I help a non-Mormon spouse to feel like a member of my ward family when he is not a member of my church? Is it naive to think we could raise our children to fully participate in two different faiths?

I am willing to add his religious observances to our worship as a couple and as a family, but should I also be willing to give up some of my participation in my own faith – for example by attending the temple or Sunday services slightly less often in order to spend more time as an entire family? If it is even possible, would it strengthen or weaken their ability to develop a personal relationship with their Heavenly Father? Even if you and your spouse have a signed-in-blood pact that you will never try to convert him—it’s worth considering—the Mormons around you won’t be able to help themselves.

The doctrinal and afterlife issues around a non-temple marriage are an entirely different topic, and one that I am personally much more at peace with than my questions about how one might make an interfaith marriage work in this life. Missionaries will love your non-member husband, especially if he’s the friendly type.

For about a year now, I’ve been dating a man who is not a member of our church (I’m avoiding the temptation here to go on a long digression about what an incredible person he is, how supportive he is of me, and how much I love him).

Early in our relationship, I gave some thought to the question of whether I would ever be willing to marry a non-Mormon.

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